When was the last time you received an apology from someone, and you know in your heart that they didn’t mean it? It can be from the way they said it or their actions causing chaos without showing any signs of innocent redemption. In places like New York City, one of the most common things I’ve encountered is when based on what someone said or did to me, they’ll constantly say “I’m sorry.” It won’t be just one situation. It’s a repeated pattern. It’s as if those two words is the perfect excuse to do what they do, and satisfy the other person’s ego after the damage is done or currently in repairs.
Every once in a while, I would be minding my own business while observing how people are interacting with each other. There was this one encounter where this male and female bumped into each other. It appeared to be an accident, but my thoughts once the male said to the female “I’m sorry.” Call me crazy, but my instincts went into overdrive and I rewind my brain back to when the male bumped into her. From the way he said those two words sarcastically, I could tell that he wasn’t truly apologizing. He bumped into that woman on purpose to feel her body and tried to mask his actions by blurting out those sincere two words.
I found that incident ridiculous and disrespectful. It brought back memories of previous encounters I’ve had in the past where no matter what someone said or did to me, when they apologized to me, I could tell from the tone of their voices that they didn’t mean it. Instead of retaliating, I would just walk away before I bring the debate up to another level since that’s obviously what they were expecting to happen.
We as a society are taking away the true meaning to the term “I’m sorry,” and are taking advantage of the two words for their own dark benefit. People like that assume that the average person are so illogical that they won’t be able to tell that when you say those two words, we wouldn’t be able to tell that you truly didn’t mean it. That we won’t able to see through the curtain of lies.
There is a deep meaning behind “I’m sorry.” When you speak those two words it publicly states that you acknowledge that you did or said something wrong. So instead of letting the problem linger, you stab that problem to death right there and move on with your lives. No more fighting or wondering when you’re going to receive those two terms of endearment. It’s a clean slate and you’re moving on with your lives.
Consider this a lesson and public service announcement for people in the future. When you apologize for something that you’ve said or did, mean it to straight down to your core. If you don’t mean it, don’t say it at all. Many human beings aren’t mentally blind. They can read right through your lies based on the way you speak and rotate. Stop taking advantage of those two terms and put your heart back into “I’m sorry.”
Better to admit that you were wrong than linger in guilty denial twenty-four-seven because you don’t want to admit that you made a mistake.
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